I know, I know it is one of the most common , most discussed or
rather most ruminated subjects in the World across ages, regions and
what not. But there are things that no matter how much we talk about
there is always something left unsaid and this is one such subject.
Every person believes that they are an expert on this subject matter and
yes, you are an expert in your own right. This blog being mine and i
considering myself one such expert will give you my take on it, if you
disagree with it write your own freaking BLOG.
Before
i begin , to all those snobs out there who think too highly of
themselves this page is specially for YOU. I would also like to clarify
that all the opinions i express here are totally based on things i have
come across and my views on what i have seen. How i think, behave and
act is not the only basis for my writing. You don't need to wonder about
how good/bad my life has or has not been based on what i write. I will
take up the guy's side of things for the obvious reason that i can tell
you about my world without second guessing anything. Though i regard
myself to be a good navigator of the women's side of things i am trying
to act a tab bit humble and am staying away from that for now. So gals
read carefully and you will gain some knowledge of what we are thinking
in our heads(I know that you think 'sex' is all we think about and you
may be right on most counts but there are other important little things
too ). Sorry guys for letting them know that we are not as simple minded
as women believe us to be, on second thought i am not !
Men Like ALL Women :
The line says it all. There are
no exceptions. Get this thing clearly in your head. It doesn't matter
how you look, your age, weight, height, complexion or any physical
feature we like you. All you have to worry about it how much more we
like the next one. What most women misunderstand is this very fact. We
like you doesn't mean anything more than we like you. Maybe our like is
different from your like. We may give you more attention than is
necessary than the other gal beside you but as i said before that is
because we like you more than her. Men are not pigs or dogs , men are
monkeys. We are attracted to shiny objects , we act obsessed but it is
for a short while , we move on to better shinny objects. However not all
men follow this pattern for long. To each his own. Each man over time
develops a schema of the tolerable women in his heads, and when he does
come across her , the like , obsess and move on phase takes a turn to
other aspects.
Men have a crush every other day :
With the horribly
askew sex ratio and thanks to the millenia of reinforcement men are
constantly on the look out for a suitable mate. Add to this boiling pot
of testosterone the constant stream of cosmetically enhanced herbally
treated beautifully dressed women and he is bound to fall for every
other her. Crush goes beyond like. Most crushes won't make sense in the
long run. The schema men carry are not a solid prioritized list of
things though the top few qualities i assume are common across men. Size
does matter and yes bigger the better. So effectively for men to have a
crush on you, means he has not gone beyond what he can see and perceive
in the first 5 seconds of your meeting. The better built you are(keep
in mind , better here is subjective to the pool of women this man in
consideration has exposure to and not to how you may see yourself) the
more chances of he skipping to the crush phase with you. The crush phase
is usually characterized by drooling(figuratively), complementing
you(men don't complement you unless they are atleast in this phase ~ men
like too many women to complement all the women they like), checking up
on your eating habits or general well being and foremost warding off or
atleast trying to ward off potential competition. We guys talk extraaaaa sweet to you(ladies) on
your face and talk horrible shit about you when we are among other guys
who know you and that is because we have a crush on you, don't want
other guys to succeed where we failed and we know you are out of our
league !! I know we are horrible, but Animal live by the code ~ Anything and Everything to get an edge !
From the crush phase depending on how women react men move to Friendship or Affair phases
Men believe in Multiple Affairs:
This phase i most loathe but like any other guy enjoy the most
as long as it lasts. Affair is purely physical. The cravings of our
body, driven solely by lust. Men know that she is the wrong fit , there
is no future and are in it just for SEX. We try and keep the relation
as shallow as possible , steering clear from forming any bond with the
women's family , friends or anything that would make things too real. In
case it becomes impossible for us to employ evasive tactics we have a
great ability to zone out your droning and act as if we care(We don't
care and we put up with you because we were foolish enough not to plan
for a back up). We may simultaneously be traveling in multiple boats
because we are not prepared to put up with any single woman's crap and
when one boat is low we jump ship and when that starts to sink we jump
to another which is sailing high winds. The women we are with match the
schema we have in our heads just enough to let us barely put up with
them. The minute we find a greener pasture we move on. This is the phase
where the crush comes to wither and die.
Men commit faster to Friendships(comparatively):
Have given it a fair bit of thought but never sure of whether
this phase is good or bad. There are a multitude of reasons to get to
this phase and scores of choices to leave this phase. From the phase of
crush most move on to the affair phase when the response from the naive
women is encouraging. But occasionally the signals are encouraging and
terrifying at the same time. We men know this women is much more than a
crush, she is special but how special we are not sure. We confide in
them, allow them to make changes in our lives consciously or
unconsciously. Let them interrupt during our marathon gaming
sessions(These are first signs of things getting serious). The schema in
our heads seems to be morphing , we are not matching this women to the
schema but the schema to the women. These women tend to alter our idea
of the ideal women. We may not agree but we love this. We love the
attention, no matter how old you are women have the ability to turn men
to kids who are insecure and who crave attention n care. We thrive in
friendships because it is a commitment without the actual restrain of
monogamy(Life is still flexible). They make their own space in our messy
world's. These friends may be come an integral part of our lives who we
adore and love(in a cross between sisterly motherly friendly weird sort
of way which falls neither here nor there). And at times these women
become the center stones of our world. Then you know you are heading for
some deep shit trouble !!! And god forbid if over the years the women
reciprocates the same feelings then you are smack in LOVE !
Men really do fall very very deeply in LOVE(You have to be sure it is love for this to be true):
Love is very hard to find. Men believe in Love too but they
also believe it rarely happens. We grudgingly take the leap but we enjoy
the fall more than anything else. Love is not a complicated matter that
needs a super computer to be understood for Men. If we listen to your
crap and we sport a genuine smile on our faces then we know we love you.
Men fall in love and the schema in their heads goes for a toss. The
kind of a woman you are , how ever annoying or stupid you maybe you are
the most amazing thing to have happened to us. When you become the
center of our world, our whole life will run around you. We will turn
our lives up side down to make things work and keep you happy. It is no
competition but if it were , men beat women at love. We understand the
gravity of love and how precious and rare it is. We do boink around a
lot but when we do fall for you, you are the world to us. No one and
nothing matters more. True love withstands time and turmoil. It is like
the hunt for Aliens or God, usually the non believers are the ones to
find them first !
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In all the phases there is a simple short way out other than going to
the next phase, you just quit and move on to some one else and start
over. Or else it may happen that you thought you quit but you may return
and continue the progress but the way a phase is structured mostly
stays the same.
*Also to be noted, the
typical relationship cycle , or the societal definition of a successful
relationship cycle ends with a Marriage which i have not accounted for.
That demands another blog post all by itself so i am putting it aside
for a future time.
** Please do note, i am
writing only about normal men who are humans , at points i may treat
them and consider them animalistic and objectify women but that is
strictly in lines of man is a social animal. I am in no way endorsing
the sick inhuman so called MEN of our society committing atrocities
against women. If you find anything offensive i would be glad to remove
that. All things i have said are in context of normal social
interactions between sexes without any malice or brutality. Only with
the context of intimate relationships being established or pursued. My
intent was only to humor and any ill will if expressed was not
intentional.
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